How I met my man.
(A universal law to attract anything you want)
Today, I want to give a testimonial. To life. To being able to create what we want. To following your gut. (Or your intuition).
I was riding my bike this morning, feeling so incredibly grateful for just one thing - the person I am spending my life with right now. He supports me endlessly. (Don't worry, this isn't going to be a post about how great my relationship is and how you can have a great relationship too. I don't believe in separation between you and I like that). It was driven from my gratitude practise. Every day, especially on shitty days, I think of something I'm grateful for, and 5 reasons why I'm grateful for it. You cant be in a bad space when you're feeling grateful, and it keeps things in perspective. This morning, it was Mr J.
It had me thinking back to how I created this.
Yeah, me.
I circled back, and connected the dots... years and years and years ago.
It became so clear to me why it seemed to be so right when we met.
We both created this. Through decisions we made long ago. This is how you get into flow.
I made a video by the volcano near our shouse to describe it.
Enjoy!
Here is the content from the video:
I am on a bike ride finding it difficult to balance the camera on the bike so let’s see how we go.
This is a little testimony to following your intuition right. Whenever I follow the feeling of something really really good. It just feels expansive and like a yes, even if it makes no logical sense. I just got this feeling like, yes, hell yes, good things have happened. I know this, and I still do things the opposite way, which is how I was taught. You have to have something, then you get to do something, and then you get to be something or somebody.
I speak to so many men and women on what they want on a daily basis, and usually it's to be in, for example, a loving relationship and they think, Well, firstly to have the right job and make the righ money, and it's once I have a relationship, then I'll do the things that I want to do, once I'm in that relationship, like travel, like start a business taking better care of my health and my finances, even, but actually it the opposite to have, do, be.
It's actually be, do, have.
And this is not what we have been taught growing up. Your goals have has to come for not a place that you have to outwardly seek and get to, like, they're actually inside of you everything you need in order to achieve whatever it is that you want, you already have it inside of you, and this is what's so backward, we're taught the opposite, I thought I had to wait until I was like, rich and famous as internet famous before I could actually run my business the way that I wanted to before I could step it up and start doing the next level, to start charging more to start running my business from anywhere like as in traveling around the world and running workshops overseas. I thought I had to wait, But no, it's actually the opposite.
I also know that people think that they have to have a partner, before they can do the things that they actually want to do, like travel around the world and go and have unique experiences and want to find out what to do that until I have a partner like that would just be so nice because it gets to a point in your life where it's like you know what, just do it.
You've got to be happy before you're going to meet someone, it doesn't work the other way around, you're not going to meet someone and then they're going to make you happy. Now I'm not saying that you won't meet someone if you're feeling unhappy, it's very possible to meet someone when you're feeling unhappy. You know when you're going to meet someone, you're going to meet someone but…
…waiting to be happy before something outside of you occurs, waiting to be happy before you take action, waiting to be happy or secure before you take a risk, it just defeats the whole purpose of be, do and then have
A really great way to tell if you're doing this, and if you're sort of cock blocking yourself from everything that you want is to ask yourself a few of these cool little questions.
In an ideal world, what would I actually do. What would be ideal me do.
Next question. Would I do it if I had $10 million dollars in the bank would I do it, if it was free, how would I handle this situation if I was confident, how would I handle this situation if I was healthy, what would I do right now if I was a successful business person if I was my ideal self.
This is just a good way to come from your goals, rather than waiting until you're successful before you make decisions that are successful or a healthier or a confident or a wealthy person would actually make or a happy person, and here's the cool thing. Often you don't even need to think about it like it's a feeling you get a yes, feeling when you think about that one thing that you really want to do. Or you get introduced to someone or you get an opportunity to do a new project or you see something or you want to do a course you get an idea, that's gives you big expansive like, yes, feeling like, Yes, this is actually what I really want to do, it feels really good. It feels expansive, it feels whole, it feels edgy, that's a yes feeling. That's a feeling that's coming from, who you want to be. It's aligned with your highest values.
You know, I would never have met my partner, Jamie, if I hadn't taken those risks and followed my heart because years ago, long, long, long ago before I met him I decided to become location independent. Because of the decisions that I made about who I wanted to be, I've invested in mentors and courses and traveling and taking myself all around the world and when we met, I was unapologetic about who I was. He really liked that, but also because I was location independent. I was living in the place that we happened to meet which we would never have met if I wasn't living there, and I was living there because I'm location independent. When we decided to move in together and be together, it was really easy for me to upheavel my life, and move to this town where I live now, because I'm location independent, because of the decision that I made that just felt good to me all those years ago. I didn't know how it was going to lead me here but it just felt really good.
That's what happens when you get into flow when you start doing things that you really want to do, you start saying yes to what feels like a yes even it makes no sense. You start saying no to what feels like a No, or it's nota hell yes. Things just line up, and they become a lot easier because you're saying yes to the things that are in alignment with your highest values and you're saying no to the things that don't. So it just keep lining up the good things for you.
Upheavering my life, and going on a new adventure to move into this little town, it didn't affect my business, it didn't affect my life. It didn't affect me at all, not in terms of having a job and things like that. If there's something that you want and you're not sure why it's not happening. Get really honest with yourself, are you living in alignment with your highest value. I can almost guarantee you that if there's something that you really want, and you're not getting it, and you're working really hard at it, you're not living in alignment with your highest value. There's an opportunity for you to be who you need to be a little bit more.
The final tip this is about finding your own way to live in a way that feels so good that you…
would be happy to keep doing this, if nothing changed until you died?
I'm serious, if you get that happy to be alive. If you stop being that person. Everything else gets into flow and lines up and falls into place, it's not the other way around.
This is how you get unstuck. This is how you shift paradigms, this is how you get into flow, this is how you change lanes.
So I invite you today to start asking yourself, Am I living in alignment with my highest value, could I keep doing what I'm doing now and be happy if I didn't actually did not get what I wanted, could I keep doing this until the day that I die, and actually be happy. And then don't wait, make whatever changes necessary if you feel something is a yes, follow it, say yes, it doesn't make logical sense. Just go for it.
Now, I'd like to hear from you!
Tell me in the comments, what are you waiting on? Are you living in alignment with your highest values right now? Whats ONE small step you're going to take, to start BEING who you nee to be, instead of waiting to have something?
Stay Curious, Stay open. The life you crave is so much closer than you think.
ALL LOVE
